1. Who is coaching for?
Anybody who is ready to take the responsibility for their life can benefit from coaching. If you...
- are feeling stuck
- are unhappy with the work
- are feeling overwhelmed
- have an anxiety issues
- would like a fresh perspective on issue you are facing
- would like to be more confident
- would like to create an action plan for achieving your goals
- need help with managing challenging relationship
- want to increase self- awareness
2. What guarantee do I have that it will work?
Coaching can be a fantastic tool to improve various areas of your life, but the same as PT will not make you fitter without you exercising, the same coach will not be able to make changes for you- if you are not prepared to take the responsibility.
The work done during the session will enable you to put plan into action, as between the sessions is the space where the real progress happens. If you are not prepared to put the effort in outside of the coaching sessions, you may get disappointed with the results.
3. How would I know if coaching is for me?
You would not, unless you look more into it. Getting into coaching arrangement is like buying a new pair of shoes- you need to make sure they fit. That’s what the chemistry session is for. It is the first meeting/call that usually will take 15-20 minutes. It aim is to explain how the process works as well as provide an opportunity for you to ask any questions or raise any concerns you may have. This non-obligatory meeting will also allow you to present the subject you would like to work on and specify your desired outcome of working with a coach. It may be that you will decide that coaching is not for you or that I am not the coach you are looking for. You do not have to decide on the spot. Some people would like to reflect on the conversation and advise, say 2 days later- that is absolutely fine. If you decide to go ahead and work together a contact (specifying numbers of sessions, logistics, etc.) will be signed. If you decide I am not the coach you are looking for- we say our good byes and that’s that, no strings attached, no spam e-mails.
4. How long is a coaching session?
Typical coaching session takes 1.5h
5. How often will we meet?
Depending on the activities that are planned for between the sessions, we will meet between 4-6 weeks. Sometimes more/less frequent meeting are needed, which will be agreed individually.
Please do not think that you cannot contact me between the sessions if you feel that this is a valid needed for it. Again, this will be agreed depending on your specific situation.
6. How may sessions do I need?
How long is a piece of sting? Number of sessions is very individual. Some clients contract for 3 sessions and add more as they go, some straight away contact 6. It may be that after 3 sessions you will be satisfied with the results and decide not to progress… or you may want to work on something else. As a rule of thumb I do not contact for more than 9 sessions at time, as this may indicate creating dependency and this is not how I work. My aim is to assist you with creating a new reality where you can independently move on and most importantly - carry on.
7. What is the difference between the coaching and the therapy/ counselling?
In therapy/ counselling you will spend a fair amount of time looking at your past, in coaching we will review what is here and now, with a clear focus on moving forward.
I like to think about coaching as a moving car. In the therapy/ counselling you will be looking in the reversing mirror (the past) quite a lot to see how what happened affected things around you (the present). In coaching- you will be spending a lot of time looking around you (the present) and through the windscreen (the future), only occasionally glancing in the reversing mirror (the past).
8. What if I do not have specific goal yet- can I use coaching?
100% YES! In the chemistry session we will discuss your current situation and you can decide whether you could benefit from the process or not.
9. Which coach is right for me?
Great question- often overlooked.
Use the chemistry session to check if the person in front of you is somebody you can work with. Is the coach easy to talk to? Are you feeling comfortable around him/her? Is he/she trustworthy? If there is no rapport- it may be that you need chemistry sessions with some other coaches to choose the most suitable person.
As this is non-regulated profession you may also want to ask about competencies and qualifications as well as code of ethics they follow. Make sure that coach you are looking to work with is under regular coaching supervision. Do not be afraid to ask as many questions you need to be at ease with your choice.
10. What type of coach are you?
“Not for everybody” type of coach. I am performance coach and my strong focus is on delivering results with accordance to your agenda. I will help you to understand how your hobbits, behaviours, emotions affect your life and how to either enhance them or change them for the future benefit. I commit my time and effort and I expect the same form you.
I am Associate of International Coach Federation- the Gurus of Coaching. I am in a process of completing Post Graduate studies in Personal and Business Coaching. I use a range of learnt psychologically- grounded coaching frameworks such as Neuro- Linguistic Programing (NLP), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Mindfulness and Transactional Analysis to ensure our sessions are not just a casual chat but a transformational process.
So, what type of coach am I? The honest and realistic one. You can expect to hear how it is from me. We will work together to ‘here and now’ reality, taking into account your circumstances, obstacles and everything else that impact your life. I cannot promise you that we will find solution for you to quit your job tomorrow with no negative impact on your life. I can assure you however that we will come up with a personalised plan that is sustainable and deliver the life long changes. I will be supporting you in implementing that plan step by step!
11. How confidential are these conversations?
Confidentiality is one of the fundamental values of coaching. I follow the ICF (International Coach Federation code of ethic meaning that the content off all sessions is confidential. The confidentiality close is also included in the contract.
12. What real issues can coaching help with?
Depending on your investment in the process, the work between the sessions and the readiness to change, coaching can be useful tool to:
- Improve work-life balance
- Increase your self-confidence
- Gives you clarity/ fresh perspective
- Increase your job satisfaction
- Improve your interpersonal skills
- Help you communicate assertively
- Assist with achieving your goals
- Help regaining control of your life
- Speed up your decision making process
- Help with a challenging relationship you have
- And maaaaany more...
13. Who do you usually coach?
The short answer is that I work with people who want to change something in their lives. People who are not sure how to do it. People who know that by ignoring the issue, going for another holiday, getting another designer handbag/ pair of shoes will not solve the problem. Don’t get me wrong- I have noting against the above things, but thinking that they will transform your life can be delusional and you may be disappointed with the results.
On the other hand- I am a realist and I know that if you have some big commitments (kids, mortgage, people that depend on you), you cannot just quit your job tomorrow and go to Fiji just because this is something you think will make you happy. This is not sustainable- and we will be working on the lasting change.
So… I work with eye rollers, with head against the wall bangers, with ‘there is more to life than this’ and ‘ I cannot go on like this anymore’ thinkers. You do not know how to change- we will work on this together. You need to commit yourself to change. It is that simple… it will not be easy… but it’s simple.
14. I don’t think I can justify this cost…
I thought the same way, until somebody changed the way I was looking at coaching. Think about it for a minute… How much are you prepared to spend on something that is a treat, like extravagant meal, luxurious holidays, or night out with too many cocktails?? How long does the good feeling last? A night? Two weeks the most- if it is holidays. Coaching is about investing money into something that could make that feeling last and give you much bigger life satisfaction. How would your life look differently then?