If you don’t know how to set boundaries:
-people will make you feel guilty about your life choices- i.e. how you spend your time, what you decide not to do, how you bring up your kids, the fact you don’t want to have kids, etc.
-you will end up doing things you don’t want to do and end up beating yourself up for it
-you will be ticking off things of somebody else’s agenda and important to you tasks will not get done
-you will be getting angry and frustrated and your self- esteem will shrink
Use the following formula for setting and upholding boundaries
The other person’s exact behaviour
Watch this short video to see how to use it and what common mistakes to avoid.