There are two women at the event, one says: “Look, fee doughnuts! You love doughnuts!” The other replies : “Yes, but look at the queue”.
Which one would you be?
The first one focuses on the Opportunities- i.e. the free doughnuts
The second one focuses on Obstacles- i.e. the queue
It can be very hard to changes in your life such as:
-make more time for yourself,
-care less about what people thinks about you,
-have better paid job,
-have happy relationships,
...if you are focusing on how hard it will be to get there and all the reasons why it may not work for you.
So what to do with it?
Ask yourself what you really want? (but it has to be yours- forget about external expectations)
Make a list of your favourite excuses:
“I’m too old for that”
“I’m not the kind of person who..”
“I can see the look on my kids faces when I tell them that from now they need to….”
“It’s too late for me to…”
Be honest with yourself- nobody is watching….
Do you actually want to change?
Is it important to you?
Is it a priority?
Are you willing to do the work?
If not, stop beating yourself, stop moaning, let it go- you’ve just decided it doesn’t matter.